Family

Better Parenting, Better Adults

Talk about complex! Raising little ones to care and be conscientious adults is one serious ball of wax. That big picture filters to a multitude of small components. The mindset influences how I talk, how I react, how I teach, how I converse, and how I plan our calendar.

In this overview of an article, the top five ways to raise kids “to become responsible, compassionate adults” (see original article here) are listed as:

  1. Resist consumption: teach the difference between need and want.
  2. Embrace the pain of work, which teaches children that difficult tasks are to be conquered, not avoided.
  3. Connect across generations.
  4. Don’t just “tour” when going on trips. Instead, be “in search of people, of adventure, of experience.”
  5. Become truly literate. Read a host of books averaging two per week, so by the end of the year, you’ve joined the Century Club.

What would you add / subtract? What points would be on your list?

Here would be my five:

  1. Foster awareness through hands-on experiences. Closely related: Serve alongside your child.
  2. Teach respect and responsibility by instilling work ethic and care for others. Moderate actions and words instead of feeling like all is permissible and perpetuating a ‘The World Revolves Around Me’ mentality.
  3. Provide situations with problems without supplying answers. Let the child ‘jigger’ it out. Set coddling aside; be the necessary net to catch a fall off the trapeze, not someone who quickly steps in to mitigate.
  4. Have a framework of rules. Be firm with appropriate consequences. Follow-through. BE CONSISTENT.
  5. Laugh, smile, and enjoy life … together. Steer away from devices. Plan free time fun. Be active together. Make healthy food, viewing, and lifestyle choices.

Feel free to share your top five suggestions.

~ For more insights, read Ben Sasse’s new book The Vanishing American Adult: Our Coming-of-Age-Crisis– and How to Rebuild a Culture of Self-Reliance. His idea for this book was boosted during the 2016 Presidential Election:

“At places where I thought people would only want to talk policy and politics, they really only wanted to talk parenting and kids,” Sasse said. “I think there’s a burgeoning movement of Americans out there that are public-minded, that are concerned about their own kids, but are also concerned about the republic, and this new troubling category of perpetual adolescence.” Click here for the source.

 

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