Talk about complex! Raising little ones to care and be conscientious adults is one serious ball of wax. That big picture filters to a multitude of small components. The mindset influences how I talk, how I react, how I teach, how I converse, and how I plan our calendar.
In this overview of an article, the top five ways to raise kids “to become responsible, compassionate adults” (see original article here) are listed as:
- Resist consumption: teach the difference between need and want.
- Embrace the pain of work, which teaches children that difficult tasks are to be conquered, not avoided.
- Connect across generations.
- Don’t just “tour” when going on trips. Instead, be “in search of people, of adventure, of experience.”
- Become truly literate. Read a host of books averaging two per week, so by the end of the year, you’ve joined the Century Club.
What would you add / subtract? What points would be on your list?
Here would be my five:
- Foster awareness through hands-on experiences. Closely related: Serve alongside your child.
- Teach respect and responsibility by instilling work ethic and care for others. Moderate actions and words instead of feeling like all is permissible and perpetuating a ‘The World Revolves Around Me’ mentality.
- Provide situations with problems without supplying answers. Let the child ‘jigger’ it out. Set coddling aside; be the necessary net to catch a fall off the trapeze, not someone who quickly steps in to mitigate.
- Have a framework of rules. Be firm with appropriate consequences. Follow-through. BE CONSISTENT.
- Laugh, smile, and enjoy life … together. Steer away from devices. Plan free time fun. Be active together. Make healthy food, viewing, and lifestyle choices.
Feel free to share your top five suggestions.
~ For more insights, read Ben Sasse’s new book The Vanishing American Adult: Our Coming-of-Age-Crisis– and How to Rebuild a Culture of Self-Reliance. His idea for this book was boosted during the 2016 Presidential Election: